You can’t choose your family…
Family is the gift that you didnt ask for, sometimes its a nice gift and sometimes the gift of family is challenging. At those times it is difficult to see it as a gift at all. Each family has its own history, values and dynamics, and personalities. We call this the family system. You may recognize certain patterns or challenges from your own life that are also at play within members of your family. Through a constellation we can bring all of that to the survice by making it visable. We always start a constellation with a question that you would like more clarity on. During a family constellation you choose representatives who temporarily take on the role of people in your family. Those representatives make contact with the field of the family system and can thus show what the dynamics are between the different people in the system. As a facilitator, I ask questions to the representatives, they answer with words and movements and express their feelings from the person who they represent. You can play a role in a constellation yourself or simply observe. Although the setup is aimed at your family and your specific question, experience shows that this is also very helpful for spectators and representatives. According to Bert Hellinger, the founder of family constellations, the representatives are connected to the knowing field and that field is what can provide clear insights into the dynamics of your family. A family constellation is a very effective means of gaining insight and understanding aspects of the family system and with that you can free yourself from that which no longer serves you. By taking your own space and allowing the people in your family system to take their natural place, much can be healed and you can move on.